If You Want Your Ex Back: Dealing With Memories

When the relationship is over but you wish it wasn’t, you might go looking for tips on how to get your ex back. It might seem like the most important thing in the world to find out how to get the person who left back. While it might seem vital to get them back, the best way to get started on that journey is to deal with the memories. It can help process the pain and help move forward more easily, whether with the ex or without them.

The first and best way to deal with the memories of the ex is to look through the home and identify everything that holds memories. This can be a lot of different things sometimes. It might not just be photographs. There may be blankets, pillows, knick knacks, paintings, or nearly anything else in the home that brings up these still painful memories. While it is not very easy at this early point, it is best to put those objects away. Think of it this way: When an item is only causing pain, what good is it really going to do? It certainly isn’t going to help the ex to come back. Some of the items that are laden with memories are only there to cause pain, which makes them pointless.

Another good way to deal with the memories is to start policing those thoughts. It can be hard at first, but try to be cognizant of each and every time that a memory of the ex starts to pop up. When that occurs, immediately redirect those thoughts into something else. It doesn’t have to be anything in particular, but the new thoughts should be as complex as possible. The more complex the thoughts, the more attention that must be paid. Therefore, it isn’t really possible to allow the mind to wander back to the ex when all the concentration is focused on making a complex to do list or cataloging everything in the home for insurance purposes.

If those memories just keep popping up, consider popping them back with a rubber band. Keep a rubber band around the wrist and snap it lightly to force a thought redirection whenever it is necessary. No need to cause a ton of pain: A little snap can wake the brain up and let it know to stop thinking that way!